Kelly Smith - England Legend

Well it has been a while. Truth be told, I just hadn’t felt inspired to blog. I hadn’t found a story that fit, a story that showed enough of a link to sport psychology that would entertain more people than just myself. The Red Sox have also been painfully average as of late, and even I have been struggling to continue my “Support Your Sox” campaign. 

But I am back, and I have found a story that is the essence of this blog. This posting really excites me, as it allows me to speak about one of my heroes, and I think that the identity of this hero will surprise many. 

The person in question has scored more goals for England than any other player in the history of football. The person grew up in my home town (or very near), and this person has also played in Boston, where I now live. Let’s save you all the suspense and reveal that the person is Kelly Smith. That’s right, one of my sporting heroes is a female soccer player, and I am very proud of that!

Kelly Smith recently was interviewed by Sky Sports as she has a new book coming out, which highlights her ups and down throughout her sporting life, culminating with her inclusion in the Great Britain Olympic squad, but the interview featured far more than just her life story in a handy 15 minute chunk. For me, it embodied the psychological struggle that so many athletes face, especially those who are forced to live their life in the public eye.

There is a theory in psychology that states that in order to gain mastery over a skill, or to be considered an expert, you need to have performed that skill for ten thousand hours, and Kelly Smith recalls how she always had a ball at her feet, both inside and outside. This theory has been expanded in a sporting sense to suggest that ten thousand touches is enough to master a technique, and Kelly Smith serves as a great example of how a young child needs to be constantly practicing, even if just by themselves or with a sibling. 

As a result of this head start, Kelly had to face rejection at a very early stage in her life. This rejection however, was different than your typical rejection for not being good enough; in fact, it was the complete opposite, as Kelly was rejected from playing on boys teams because she was too good, and the young boy’s parents complained. Rejection can have a profound impact on a young athlete, and Kelly chose to use this rejection to motivate her, but for so many it goes the other way.

As Kelly got older, her desire to challenge herself was evident when she took her talents to the USA to attend Seton Hall University on a full athletic scholarship for soccer.  She had tremendous individual success at Seton Hall and at the end of her college career, her number was retired.   Unfortunately this is only half of the story. You see, as Spiderman teaches us, “With great power, comes great responsibility”, and Kelly encountered many tests whilst in America. She encountered self-doubt, loneliness, and injury; as a result of these challenges, she discovered and began to abuse alcohol. She covered up her alcoholism, until it almost destroyed her (and her career), but finally broke down and told her Dad everything, who rescued Kelly, and brought her back home to the UK and Kelly entered rehab. This was rock bottom for Kelly.

Kelly described herself as a Jekyll and Hyde character, as on the field she was confident and strong, yet off the field she would hold back and be far more reserved. This to me speaks of a much deeper issues, as at the root of the Dr. Jekyll and Mr Hyde fables is the underlying schematic of schizophrenia, a serious mental health disorder. I am not suggesting that Kelly Smith is or was a schizophrenic, just merely pointing out her own admittance of having these symptoms. She claims to come alive when on the field, and having seen her play in person, I can testify that this is the case, as her level of play is on an upper echelon when compared to her opponents. It is truly beautiful to watch.

For me, the most important part of the interview was the acknowledgement of Kelly’s support network. Ultimately, every person needs a support network in order to help them persevere, and for athletes, this network needs to be strong. Kelly mentions her family, and for an athlete, the way that family reacts to triumphs and tribulations can often influence that athlete and their reactions, which can ultimately make or break their career. Smith also mentioned two of her coaches and a teammate of hers, whom she had both high moments in front of, as well as low moments. Once again, it was the reactions of these coaches and team mates which enabled Kelly Smith to break records and become the player she is today.

As Kelly smith enters the later part of her footballing career, she can look back at her life story and take much pride from her accomplishments, but also from the way that she was able to bounce back from some very tough challenges.

Dear Mr. Beckett

Dear Mr Beckett,

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I would first like to thank you for all that you have done for Boston Red Sox baseball. Your performance in game 1 of the 2007 World Series was a prime example of the catalyst type player and leader of men that you can be.

I write this letter as I feel that you might be feeling a little down right about now, and may feel that the Red Sox Nation has turned its back on you. These past 6 months has been unlike anything you have experienced in Boston before, and even  the most dedicated of professionals would have some difficulty in knowing how to react. But Red Sox Nation have not turned their backs on you and we still support our Sox! We just feel like certain things have been misunderstood. I will try to explain.

Allow me to congratulate you on the birth of your daughter.  When you stated that your priorities had changed, and baseball was no longer the most important thing in your life, every American empathized with you. I am not sure that I know anyone whose work is more important than providing for their family. However, perhaps it might have been better left unsaid. For Red Sox Nation, who at the end of the day are the ones who pay to watch you pitch, buy the merchandise that features your name, and whichever way you look at it contribute to your salary, we did not need to hear you relegate your commitment to baseball. 

Last September was heart breaking, for both of us I am sure. From my perspective, my Red Sox suffered the biggest collapse in baseball history, and needed just one more win in a month where the team went 7 – 20. You seem to be a pitcher that thrives on the big stage, and with this collapse, you were unable to pitch in the 2011 post season.  This culminated in the eventual firing of Terry Francona amidst the “chicken and beer” scandal that you were reported to be a part of. Red Sox Nation loved Francona, as I am sure you did, and we were all sad to see him go, especially in the way that the ball club handled the situation. Yet you seemed to be more upset by the fact that there was a rat in the club house and someone from within the organization was talking to the media. The Red Sox Nation really wanted to hear from the pitching staff who were alleged to be involved in “chicken and beer” and hear them at the very least acknowledge that they need to do better. This did not need to be an admission that “chicken and beer” was accurate reporting, just that as a pitching staff, you take some responsibility to how the team played in September. We did not need to hear that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

Then Bobby Valentine gets the job as Manager of the Red Sox. The same Bobby Valentine who had been an ESPN analyst and had publically criticized the amount you take between pitches. This must have been very tough for you, but I really don’t think that the Red Sox Nation would care if you take 90 seconds between each pitch if you guide us to October baseball each year.

 

Following the September collapse, Francona exit, GM Theo Epstein exit, “chicken and beer” scandal, Valentines hiring and of course the birth of your daughter, you have certainly gone through a lot of changes in a short space of time. I would imagine that this would have been challenging to deal with, yet you did have 4 months during the off season to compartmentalize all of these changes as they happened. All Red Sox Nation wanted was to see the old Josh Beckett return and come to spring training ready to play, and help lead their young starting pitching staff as the experienced elder. All we wanted to see was Josh Beckett do his job.

And now we find the Red Sox struggling (see my last blog post “Support Your Sox”) to start the 2012 season, and the starting pitching has been the biggest reason for that struggle. You yourself have pitched a couple of games where you admitted you sucked. The Red Sox fans appreciate it when you have the guts to come out after a tough start and tell it like it is, but please understand that this should be a rarity and not the norm.

You even found yourself recently involved in “golf-gate”, which has now been blown way out of proportion. I am sure you will blame the media for this scandal, but I think you could have handled the situation with a little more professionalism. You informed the medical staff at the ball club about your sore right lat muscle, and as a result of this, combined with some roster issues with Aaron Cook, your start against the Orioles was skipped. The fans interpreted this as you being injured, and rightfully so. You were then spotted playing golf with another one of the Red Sox starting pitchers, who currently has the highest ERA amongst all starting pitchers in the major leagues, Clay Buchholz. But we all thought you were injured, so Red Sox Nation were naturally confused. Then, you make your start last night against Cleveland, and in your own words you pitched like shit. Please forgive us for putting these three situations together and coming up with the following timeline of events:

1.       You injure you right lat muscle which means you miss your start against Baltimore

2.       Then on your scheduled off day, you play golf with Clay Buchholz – a game that requires use of the lat muscle

3.       Then on your next start, you struggle and get pulled before the end of the 3^rd inning.

The three things are clearly linked, and when asked about it during the post-game press conference, you come across as a petulant child “my off days are my off days and I can do what I want”. Well Mr Beckett, you are a professional baseball player, a member of the greatest baseball team in the world, The Boston Red Sox, and you get 4 months off during the year. Would it be acceptable it a teacher came to school on a Monday morning hungover from drinking on Sunday night (a scheduled off day)? As a parent, I am sure you will answer no to that question. Well Red Sox Nation feel this way about you playing golf with a sore right lat muscle, and to boot you took a young pitcher, who is on pace for a John  Lackey-esque type year, and brought him into this controversy. Red Sox Nation are looking to you to lead this pitching staff, and help them to help you add to the 2 World Series rings that you already own.

We want you to have a better understanding of the way we think as fans, so please read this letter. Try not to get offended, as everything is said to show you how we as supporters of the Red Sox are feeling, and how much we want you to succeed.

 

I await your response, which should come in form of you regaining the focus that has made you one of the best pitchers in recent memory and helping the Red Sox regain the form that the entire Red Sox Nation recognizes.

Kind Regards

Sports Are Mental blog

Red Sox Nation

SUPPORT YOUR SOX

The Boston Red Sox are struggling right now. There is no other way to put it. The current standing have them in last place in the AL East, 7.5 games back from first place Tampa and 7 games back from second place Baltimore. That’s right, I said Baltimore.  Looking for a silver lining? The Yankees are in second to last, but the Red Sox are still 4 games back from them.

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I know that it is May, and that we have yet to even have a quarter of a season, but as things stand right now, on May 10, The Red Sox are struggling.  The most apparent reason is pitching, and specifically starting pitching. The Red Sox best record pitcher is Clay Buchholz, who has a record of 3 – 1, however taking a look beyond his win-loss record shows that Buchholz has the worst ERA in all of baseball amongst starting pitchers with a 9.09 ERA. He is also receiving the best run support of all the Red Sox starting pitchers. The other 2 of the “big three”, Beckett and Lester have also struggled, but they have both struggled beyond just their statistics. Lester, who was given the start on opening day and as such earned the right to call himself the Ace of the staff, has been like a child on the mound, complaining to umpires about not getting calls, which is a sign of passion and desire, yet he then allows these perceived bad decision to affect his next pitch and often gets consumed with the decisions.

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And then there is Josh Beckett, who before the season began was a hot topic, with his new manager criticizing the amount of time he takes between pitches when he was an analyst on ESPN. Then Beckett becomes the face of the chicken and beer scandal (only because John Lackey went to get Tommy Johns surgey), and even voiced his displeasure at the fact that someone in the club house spoke to the media, as if the notion of being a rat is worse than drinking beer and eating fried chicken. We should expect more from professional athletes whose team needed just 1 more win to get into the playoffs. But let’s move past everything that happened last season in September and even in the off season.  This season Becket has been up and down, but his last start, on April 29^th against the Chicago White Sox, Beckett threw 126 pitches, and actually pitched pretty well allowing just three earned runs on six hits, walking three and striking out eight. With this stellar performance, his next start should have been one where he would be on fire, with momentum on his side and the Fenway faithful backing his every pitch.  This start should have been on May 5^th at Fenway against the Baltimore Orioles, yet Aaron Cook made that start, got injured and the Sox went on to lose 8 – 0.

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Beckett complained of a sore lat muscle, and was alleged to feel disgruntled about having to pitch 126 pitches again the White Sox. So he told the staff that he would be unable to make his last start. Then yesterday (May 9^th) reports surface that Beckett was seen with Clay Buchholz playing golf on their off day. These reports have yet to be confirmed, but IF, and I repeat IF they are true, then the Red Sox need to look no further than this for reasons why the pitching staff are struggling. Player’s do not feel connected with the ball club, or they would have the respect and foresight to see that playing golf with a sore lat muscle is not the best use of down time to recover for a start just 2 days later.

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Of course, the Red Sox have lots of other reasons as to why they are struggling. They have been missing Jacoby Ellsbury, Andrew Bailey and Carl Crawford for virtually all of this season through injury.  Their bullpen, which has been great out of necessity, took some time in figuring out who would be taking which role. Much debate was had over whether or not Daniel Bard should be moved back from the starting rotation to the bullpen, but it was to be just a onetime visit during a road trip in Minnesota.  Alfredo Aceves has become the closer, and surprisingly strong performances from unlikely pitchers Scott Atchinson and Clayton Mortensen has meant that when the starting pitchers only managed a 4 or 5 inning outing, there was often still a chance to win.

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Then there is the problem of the bats. The Red Sox expects their big bats to deliver, and none have been more disappointing than Adrian Gonzales, highlighted by his 0 for 8 performance against the Baltimore Orioles in an 17 inning marathon that saw him strike out when facing Orioles designated hitter Chris Davis. Youkillis has also struggled with both a slow start and a subsequent stint on the DL. However there have been some bright sparks; Big Papi, the Red Sox DH, has been on fire, and the emergence of Will Middlebrooks has been a boost of young enthusiasm the likes of which are usually reserved for the captain elect Dustin Pedroia.

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Boston is a tough sports town, and when the chips are down, Bostonians are not shy in voicing their opinions, which is a fantastic thing. However, from a psychology perspective, I am launching a new campaign – the “SUPPORT YOUR SOX” campaign. The Boston Red Sox, YOUR Boston Red Sox, MY Boston Red Sox are still a good baseball club, and still have some of the best talent in the Majors. We are in a rut, but we need to get behind our Sox.  So please, join me in tweeting #Supportyoursox, share this blog post to the Red Sox nations, and call into WEEI and tell them to Support Your Sox. We have a long way to go this season, but with support from the Red Sox Nation, the Red Sox can get back to doing what they do best – playing ball and winning games! SUPPORT YOUR SOX!

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The Make-Up of Perfection

Phillip Humber, the 29 year old right handed pitcher for the Chicago White Sox became the 21st pitcher in the history of Major League Baseball to pitch a perfect game. For those unfamiliar with the game of baseball, a perfect game is when a pitcher records 27 consecutive outs in one game without surrendering a hit or a walk.

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Humber can be described as a young journeyman, having been drafted by the New York Mets, and playing for the Minnesota Twins, Kansas City Royals and currently for the Chicago White Sox. He will now be forever inscribed in baseball folklore. His feat of throwing a perfect game is remarkable, and the fact that he is only one of 21 people do achieve this goes to show that it takes more than just being a good pitcher. There is something deeper to making this dream come true, and perhaps it might be something that lays deep inside an individuals psyche.

I hadn't really heard of Humber before tonight, and I am sure that I am not alone in that fact, so it is hard for me to state which attributes he has that perhaps other great pitchers who have yet to join the elusive club of perfection don't, so I won't speculate. What I offer below is some attributes that perhaps Humber has, and utilizes better than others, which might have enabled him to become Mr. 21 (an awful nickname, that I am sure will not stick).

Support - It came as no surprise to me that Humber's first thanks was to his family. When you are a professional athlete, you need to have a family that understands that you might be gone for weeks at a time, in preparation for a large event or performing on the road. As a baseball player, you play 162 games a year, and half of those will be "on the road". In a large number of cases, a major league player may not live in the same city that he plays in.

This means that an athlete must be well supported by his family in order to give him the best chance to succeed. Yet Humber was also well supported by his second family; The Chicago White Sox. The look on the faces of the entire White Sox bench when the final out of the night was recorded was a look of shared joy, pride and happiness, as if they themselves had pitched the perfect game. Of course, the second group of people that Humber thanked were his team mates! Specifically he thanked his catcher AJ Pierzynski.

Faith - Even before Humber mentioned his wife and child, he spoke the words "God is so good". This speaks of a tremendous faith in god. Different to a Tim Tebow "My lord and savior Jesus Christ" type of faith. Humber is merely acknowledging his belief of god. We don't know which god Humber is referring to, just that he has belief.

So often we see professional athletes praying before and thanking god after a performance. Tebow of course brought this to the media spotlight with "Tebow-ing", yet athletes have been doing this for years. There are most certainly athletes who are not religious, and even those who straight up do not believe in god, and i am not suggesting that belief in god is a per-requisite for success. All I am commenting on is that Humber clearly has a strong belief in god, and in his mind, god helped him throw every single pitch of his perfect game.

Concentration/Focus - During his post game interview, Humber was clearly overwhelmed with what he had just achieved, yet when questioned about the first out in the 9th inning, he maintained that his focus was on not giving up the 4 run lead that the White Sox had, as opposed to ensuring that he made history. Even in the face of pitching a perfect game, Humber was only focused on doing his job. This could be described as being the true definition of perfection.

Bounce-back-ability - A phrase coined on a British soccer show called Soccer AM, Bounce-back-ability refers to the ability of an individual to come back from a significant bout of adversity. For Humber, this could of been his disappointing spells with his previous clubs, or even his recent Tommy Johns surgery, yet which ever way you look at Phillip Humber, he certainly has bounce-back-ability in abundance.

April 21st 2012 is a date that Phillip Humber, and baseball fans around the world will remember for a long time. Congratulations Phillip!

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Hockey - A Fighting Chance

I apologize in advance if you are a hockey fan or played hockey growing up. I have never been to a live Hockey game, and although I did play field hockey in college (in Europe it is a man's game), I have never played ice hockey. I don't however believe that those facts make my opinions on a certain aspects of the game irrelevant. In  the same light, if you had an opinion on professional wrestling, you would never hear me respond with "well you have never been in the ring, therefore you have no right to pass judgement".

I just bought my 4 year old nephew a Boston Bruins jersey. He looks adorable in this jersey, but after what I have witnessed this past week, when watching the Boston Bruins and the Washington Captials in the Stanley Cup playoffs, I am regretting my purchase. Hockey is one of the top 4 sports in the US, alongside baseball, american football and basketball. Soccer comes in at number 5 (if you count college sports as being the same as their professional counterparts). Yet if the actions that occur on a nightly basis on a hockey rink were to take place in any other sporting arena, then fines, suspensions and legal ramifications would be a regular news story on Sports Center. I am of course talking about the fighting, but more specifically the apparent "cheap shots" that are becoming very common.

Tim Thomas is one of the best goal tenders in the NHL, and was a key reason that the Bruins were able to win the Stanley Cup in 2011, however during game 2 of the Bruins Capitals game, Thomas, whilst defending his goal in the 3rd period of a 1 - 1 tie game, dropped his stick with the sole intention to punch Nicklas Backstrom in the head. Having watching this incident over and over again, there is simply no other plausible explanation that I can come up with, other than Thomas wanted to punch this guy in the head. If you have another explanation, I would love to hear it in the comments section. The video can be seen below:

Somehow, fighting has a place in hockey, and I personally find this to be disgraceful. A large percentage of youths today look up to athletes as their role models, and the message that the NHL sends to the youth of today is nothing short of irresponsible. Athletes might not ask to be role models, but the fact of the matter is that when you are being watched by thousands of people every time you skate, you are a role model, whether you like it or not.

There is no psychological edge to be had from winning a fight against another player, and in this case, Backstrom was able to score the game winning goal, in double overtime on Tim Thomas! As a Bruins fan, I was actually pleased for Backstrom. Tim Thomas let his team down, not by conceding a goal, but by forgetting who he is, and that is a TEAM member.

I know that fights occur in sports, be it from a late hit in football, or a struck batter in baseball, but these happen a handful of times in a season. Fights in the NHL have become part of the every day game. Take this example from a New York Rangers New Jersey Devils game, where 3 fights took place as soon as the puck was dropped.

 I just don't get it. If you want to see a fight, go and watch the UFC. I prefer to see scores settled by a demonstration of which athlete or team has the most skill. Set the example to those who aspire to be doing what you do by showing them that to be successful in life you need to be as good as possible at it.

I know that in one of my previous blogs I used the saying "For that that believe no explanation is required, and for those that don't believe, no explanation will do", and I stand by this, as it related to professional wrestling, however I am laying down a challenge to all hockey fans to justify how fighting has a legitimate place in ice Hockey. I know that sports are mental, but this might be a little too mental for my tastes.

Know Thy Enemy - Brock Returns Home!

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WWE presented their biggest show of the year on Sunday, and as usual it delivered! The main event alone was a spectacle unlike any other, with live musical performances of each superstar's promotional music, and an entertaining match that sent the record breaking crowd home happy. However, what could end up outshining Wrestlemania could well be the return of Brock Lesnar, which occurred at the end of the WWE's flagship show Monday Night Raw.

Lesnar is a former NCAA heavyweight wrestling champion, and has previously held the WWE championship 3 times. But his rise to mainstream athletic fame came with his 4 year tenure with the UFC, the mixed martial arts promotion, where he twice held the UFC heavyweight title.

His final bout in the UFC was a disappointment for all involved, as Lesnar went in to this match after taking a lot of time off to recover from a stomach illness known as diverticulitis, and it was a simple looking kick to the stomach that eventually shut the door on Lesnar's MMA career.

The thing that i have heard for many years now, is that professional wrestling and MMA simply do not mix. Many professional wrestling fans stopped following wrestling when MMA went mainstream, and Lesnar was a big reason for the rise of UFC. What will they think about Lesnar's return? Can professional wrestling learn anything from Lesnar and his MMA experience? Are MMA and professional wrestling really rivals? I would say that for the 18 - 29 male demographic, they almost certainly compete for the same viewership (although not always at the same time).

This is a stroke of genius from the WWE! They have managed to get back on of their most popular superstars, who like The Rock, became an even bigger name whilst away from the WWE. Where Lesnar and The Rock differ is, that Lesnar is unlikely to ever be able to return to MMA. For the WWE, this is truly a case of know thy enemy, as they will have access to the experiences of Lesnar within the UFC, and more importantly have access to Lesnar to help build some of its up and coming stars with his name value and "real fighter" reputation.

I don't see anything mental about this move from the WWE, as long as Lesnar himself is committed to being there, and performing in the way that WWE expects!

Tiger Woods and the Self Fulfilling Prophecy

So much has been written about Tiger Woods. Even more has been said about the man who held the number 1 world ranking in golf for over 5 year. Yet this past week during an interview with ESPN’s Tom Rinaldi, Tiger uttered perhaps his most telling word yet. In response to the question “What drives you?” Woods responded with his typical focused and composed stare by using one simple word; “winning”.

You see, Tiger still believes. He believes that he still has the ability to recapture his old form and make that comeback that the media are equally as obsessed with as he is. Tiger Woods is a sports blogger’s dream! The material practically writes itself, yet for me, a blogger who focusses on the mental aspect of sports, Tiger Woods is still a mystery wrapped in an enigma. Yet following his latest interview, some pieces of this mystery wrapped enigma are beginning to become clearer. Specifically what motivates Tiger Woods and how he is using the concept of the self fulfilling prophecy to drive him forward.

It is no secret that Tiger Woods has an obsession with catching and over taking Jack Nicklaus’ record of 18 golf majors (Woods is stuck on 14), and this is clearly one of his central motivators, yet winning in general also clearly motivates Woods. He is closing in on 100 worldwide victories, and if Woods does reach that number, it will certainly go down as a historical moment in sport.  So Woods it appears is beginning to take a more systematic approach to his obsession. One win event at a time. 

The self fulfilling prophecy is when the capabilities of an individual are determined, and then due to these determinations, the capabilities are matched via performance. With Woods, by his continual referral about his desire to win, he is willing this event to happen. By continually referring to winning, perhaps he is trying to psych out his fellow tour members, and put the thought in their heads that this is the Tiger of old, and that he is still to be feared as he once was.

I hope that Tiger Woods is able to return to his old golf self. That Tiger never spoke about winning, he just won. He is now forcing the term winning to become part of his own everyday lexicon, and in doing so is willing the self fulfilling prophecy to take over. That sounds a little crazy, and perhaps it is, but after all, the one thing we do know is that sports are mental!

I SUPPORT P90X and P90X2 and you should too! (Part 2)

In my last blog, I tried to give you some of my thoughts about P90X and even admitted to some of the many mistakes that I made in my first round of P90X. When I began my second round of P90X, I had that experience behind me and made a few major changes. 

The man himself - Tony Horton!

Change 1 - Plan Ahead! I not only decided to do P90X (again), but I made the commitment to go back to back with P90X and the brand new P90X2. This gave me a 6 month plan, and addressed the 91^st day problem that I referred to in my previous blog. 

Change 2 – No more “cheating”! I know that I wasn’t really cheating by using a chair to help with the pull ups, but the fact is that I could do 5 or 6 before I started the program without the chair, and with the use of the chair I was able to do 18 – 20. Towards the end of my first round, when I decided to take the chair away, that 18 – 20 number dropped drastically to 8 – 10, and this was motivationally demoralizing.  When I began round 2 of P90X, I didn’t use a chair, and by the end of the 90 days, I was happily banging out 20 pull ups, and always increasing the number throughout the 90 days.

Change 3 – Nutrition is my mission! Let me admit that I have a problem, bordering on having an addiction. I love chocolate and cookies (especially ones that my family brings over from the UK). When starting P90X, these things WILL slow you down, they definitely slowed me down. During my first round, I took no notice of the nutrition advice that came with the program, so when I decided to go for another round of P90X, I committed to sticking with the nutrition plan. This included incorporating protein shakes and/or bars into my daily routine. Take the time to take a good look at what you eat – it is only now that I realize that the reason I do not have that washboard 6 pack is because of my own poor choices of food.

With these changes in place, I pressed play, and continued to press play day after day for 90 days. But there was one more change that I made, and this would be the change that allowed me to not only complete the program, but also follow through on my 91^st day plan and beyond. I told anyone and everyone exactly what I was doing. This is the notion of having a support system in place, and for me, it made me accountable to all of the people who I had told. I told my wife, my family, my work colleagues, my facebook friends and I even tweeted to Tony Horton himself (I never did get a reply by the way Tony). Now of course, my real hope was that all of these people would come up to me and tell me that I was in great shape and ask me if I had been “working out”? Only for me to reply “working out? No, I have been P90Xing it!”

Results aside, by completing the exercise program, and actually sticking with it (yoga and all – but more on that in part 3), the feeling of satisfaction was just as important to me as the other benefits normally associated with exercise.

Have you ever wondered why so many people, and feel free to include yourself in this problem, are unable to complete an exercise program from start to finish? One of the biggest reasons for this is that they have no one to hold them accountable for their goals. This is why I told everyone I knew that I was doing P90X. Developing a strong or vast support system will ensure that someone will help you maintain your goals. No one can physically force you to work out, but having a support system will increase your chances of finishing what you start!

In part 3, I will share some of my thoughts about P90X2, and will also share with you some of my obscure observations about all the characters and interactions that went down in the P90X DVD’s. It’s not to be missed…Thanks for reaching, and remember that sports really are MENTAL!

P90X - P90X2 My journey part 1

You have all seen the infomercials before. The ones where you see a picture of an average or even slightly overweight guy, and then the same guy 90 days later looking like an Abercrombie model. Then you hear all about how he did this program called P90X and it changed his life. I am kind of like that guy, except I was never overweight and I do not nor ever will look like an Abercrombie model.

For those who do not know me, I used to be a professional wrestler. But let me preface that statement with the fact that I am only 5 foot 8 and have never weighed more than 165lbs.I wrestled for about 10 years on the independent scene in the UK. Having a small amount of success and getting the chance to wrestle all over the UK and being paid for what I loved doing was awesome. So I was in shape. I also played soccer my entire life, and have run a sub 4 hour marathon. I am not bragging, I just want you to know all of this as I think it plays a big part in the rest of my story here.

I also love anything that says as seen on TV. I own a sham wow, a slap chop, a graty and a power washing hose. My dream one day is to own a sonic knife, but I digress. I like everyone saw the P90X commercials and being a sport science geek had a basic understanding of the muscle confusion part, but just didn't really want to make the admission that my gym membership was beginning to be a waste of time and money. I really liked going to the gym, but hated seeing guys who were bigger than me lifting heavier weights than me and then spending 20 minutes starring at the hot girl on the treadmill. I was in a fitness rut for sure. Then I did the math, and worked out that I was basically paying close to $500 a year for the gym. I couldn't believe that number at first, but it was true. How much do you spend on a gym? or a personal trainer? or even a home gym that is now doing a great impression of a clothes hanger? I am not judging you, because I really used to be that guy. Then, my life changed. And before you sigh a here we go again sigh, and think that this is the part where I try and sell you P90X, it’s not. Buy it, don't buy it – I am not on commission. I am just giving you some background as to where I was before I started P90X.

Needless to say I took the plunge and got everything I needed for P90X...or so I thought. First thing first, and if you are thinking about starting P90X, this is where you will want to pay close attention. There are 2 main things that you need before you start - All of the equipment and most importantly time. Now I don't really care if you work 40 hours a week or have 2 kids or have 2 jobs - if you want to do this and decide to do this, then you will find the time, but, you still need time. The commercials state that you need about an hour a day, but let me be more specific , for almost every workout, you will need one hour and 20 minutes a day, and for the yoga workout, you will need 90 minutes. That’s right; there is a yoga workout, but more on that later. On top of the scheduled workout, every other day there is an additional 16 minute ab ripper workout, which is awesome, but never really mentioned. Then of course there is the equipment, and it is up to you how you decide to go for this. I chose the buying a standard pull up bar and some dumb bells from target route. Now here is the other thing I will point out to anyone who is thinking of starting. The weights you start the program with will seem very light if you finish the program. You should probably have a few different weights, with something to strive for, like a really heavy weight that you intend to build up to. You will also need lighter weights, so don’t let your ego get in the way of buying some light weights too.

Ok- so you have the time, and you have the equipment. The next thing you need before you start is an understanding of what the outcomes of this program might be and how to best equip yourself to reach those outcomes. This is when we look to sport psychology and goal setting for advice. There is a well-known acronym that is used when it comes to goal setting, SMART, which has been used by professional and amateur athletes for years.

S - Specific

M – Measureable

A – Action Oriented

R - Realistic

T – Time sensitive

P90X is a program that really helps you stick with the SMART goal setting method. It provides you with all the tools you need, and all you need to do is press play everyday!

Yet, advancements in goal setting research have made all of us a little bit SMARTER.  The ER of SMARTER relate to two things that are vitally important with P90X:

E - Evaluate

R – Recreate

With P90X, you will do the same workouts a number of times, and this gives you the chance to evaluate your goals for each exercise, and continue to improve at them. With P90X, the way you go about goals in your everyday life should become SMARTER.

Have a plan of what to do on day 91 (other than tell the world how good you look). This is so important. I would say that P90X is more about the first few weeks after you have finished than the 90 days you worked your butt off. I started my first round of P90X in April of 2011, and I started my second round of P90X on December 1 2011. You do the math! 6 months in between the two, and I really tried to maintain my shape. I cycled to work - that lasted less than a month. I purchased a cheap nasty P90X rip off from bed bath and beyond - that lasted a month. I even went back to a gym for a month (don’t worry that was free). But the bottom line is that after finishing my first round of P90X, I was in the best shape of my life, and then 6 months later when I started again, I was not. I had let myself go. I did not put on 100 pounds or anything like that, but for my own high standards, I was out of shape.

During my first round of P90X, I made some critical errors which I am going to share with you. First of all, I gave up on the yoga after 6 weeks. It was too time consuming I told myself, but truth be told, I couldn’t do it well enough. I sucked at it. Secondly, and this goes against what the dvd’s tell you, I used a chair to assist with pull ups. I became dependent on that damn chair. My advice about the pull ups are just don’t bring the chair into the equation unless you absolutely need it. If you can do 3 or 4 pull ups without a chair, then you don’t need it. The final error I made with my first round of P90X was that I ignored the nutrition aspect of the program completely. My thoughts were that I eat healthy anyway so there really is nothing I can learn about nutrition...wrong! I always wondered why I never had a washboard 6 pack, and the answer is because a 6 pack is not made in the gym, it is made in the kitchen. Learn from my mistakes; stick with the yoga (or any of the workouts that you think you suck at), push yourself to do what you can without cheating and do not underestimate food and supplementations.

The Personality Clash 1 Year In The Making

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On April 1st, in Miami Florida, The WWE will present it's biggest show of the year, Wrestlemania. The main event will be The Rock (Dwayne Johnson) taking on John Cena. This match was made following the controversial ending of the main event of last years Wrestlemania, when then WWE Champion, The Miz, was able to record a victory against heavy favorite John Cena in part thanks to the interference from The Rock.

The very next night on RAW, on April 4th 2011, Cena and The Rock were in the ring together, verbally sparring. The Rock claimed that him and Cena were complete opposites and that The Rock flat out doesn't like Cena. Cena responded quite simply by asking for a match, there and then! The Rock, then layed down the gauntlet, of having the match at Wrestlemania 28, and it was sealed with a handshake and an obligatory stare down. The main event of WWE's marquee event was made an entire year in advance,  this was unprecedented in the 28 year history of this event.

The WWE had one of its biggest challenges in recent memory. How would they promote this match? On name value alone, both The Rock and Cena would be able to sell out an entire arena, so putting them against each other would seem to be a marketing no brainer, yet what was hook, the substance, the rationale for these two fighting one another. In wrestling terms, what was the angle? Sure, Cena was angry about his Wrestlemania 27 loss, but that momentum could never last a full year.

The Rock is still a Hollywood movie star, and was not returning to the WWE full time. Yet Cena and The Rock were able to continue their verbal sparring for a few months, mostly with the Rock appearing via satellite, much to the chagrin of Cena. The Rock made the occasional (heavily promoted) live appearance, and during the Survivor Series pay per view, The Rock and John Cena were tag team partners (with the tag line, never before, never again!), but again after Survivor Series The Rock would be needed back in Hollywood.

In The Rock's absence, Cena continued being John Cena, rarely changing the act that had made him one of the biggest superstars of this generation. However this act, as The Rock was never shy in pointing out, was getting a little tiresome for the WWE Universe's 18 + demographic. The kids still adored Cena, but the boos outweighed the cheers considerably. The irony here of course being that The Rock made his triumphant return to the WWE, after a 6 year absence, and came back with the exact same act that made him one of the biggest superstars of all time. The only difference was the lure of nostalgia, which continues to work in The Rock's favor.

Now, as we approach Wrestlemania 28, with all the hype and publicity focusing around this match, the angle is perfectly clear to me, and with the help of Sport Psychology, I will explain it. You see, The Rock was wrong on April 4th 2011 when he declared that him and John Cena were complete opposites. They are in fact, far too similar, and this is what makes this match so exciting. In the history of the WWE, this match will go down as one of the most important ever. In sport psychology, we learn about personality types, and how they can often be used to predict behavior. Using a simple personality test such as Eysenck's Personality Inventory (1965), both The Rock and Cena would be described as being extroverted and stable. It should have been obvious that as soon as The Rock cost Cena the main event of Wrestlemania 27, Cena would become obsessed with an adequate response. Both men are extremely talkative, and have at one point in their careers been the leader of the WWE brand. John Cena always elicits a powerful reaction (sometimes cheers, but mostly boos) and The Rock is justified by calling himself "The Most Electrifying man in all of Entertainment", as both men are exceptionally lively in front of a live audience. The similarities are exactly what makes this match so important.

The WWE universe, at various times have both cheered these men to heights never before seen in their respective generations, only now that the WWE universe is having to choose, nostalgia is playing a role. Yet at Wrestlemania 28, The Rock is the hometown hero, and Cena will be revered by the majority of the audience. You will still have your Cena loyalists, but I do not think it would surprise anyone to hear Cena booed louder than ever. I also feel that this is more a reflection of The Rock's mainstream hollywood popularity and nostalgic wrestling return than it is on Cena's legitimate unpopularity. The crux of this main event comes down to a personality clash between two of the biggest superstars in modern day professional wrestling. Can two extroverts share the spotlight? Can two stable men keep their game faces on and focus on the match rather than the spectacle that is Wrestlemania? These are the questions that will define this match, and one year in the making, John Cena Vs The Rock is a mouth watering prospect!

Captivating Captaincy

The English national soccer team always has a media circus following its every move. Sometimes, the actions of those involved in the team mirror those of circus performers, with the likes of John Terry and in the past Paul Gazza Gascoigne acting like clowns. Terry's clowning around was off the pitch, with his affair with another player's wife, whereas Gazza chose to be a clown after scoring one of the most memorable goals in English history against Scotland at Wembley stadium during Euro '96, and also holds the nickname of being the Clown Prince of England. A clear difference between John Terry and Paul Gascoigne is that John Terry has been captain of England whereas Gazza has never had that prestigious honor. It comes down to leadership.

The current media circus for English football (soccer) is surrounding the resignation of Fabio Capello and his eventual successor. Capello, an Italian, resigned after the FA stripped John Terry of the England captaincy due to a racism row. Since his resignation, speculation of who the next England manager will be has been relatively subdued, with current Tottenham Hotspur manager Harry Redknapp being the overwhelming favorite. It seems as though the FA are going to allow Redknapp to complete his club season at Tottenham, before making any official approach or announcement, and in the interim have appointed Stuart Pearce, who is the England Under 21's manager. Pearce recently named his first squad for the friendly game against The Netherlands, and also gave current Tottenham player and recent recipient of the 2011 English national team player of the year Scott Parker the honor of being captain.

Being the captain of your country, according to Stuart Pearce is the greatest honor that can be bestowed upon a player. Pearce was captain of the national team from 1992 - 1993, and since then the armband has been officially worn by 15 other men, with another 9 wearing the armband unofficially. The greatest honor that can be bestowed upon a player should be reserved for those players who deserve it; a player who comes along once in a generation, a player who is iconic for his passion for England, a player who the other players can get behind - a player like Stuart Pearce himself.

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It is possible that Scott Parker could well become the permanent England captain, if Pearce continues to select him and if Redknapp does become the next England manager. So what makes a great captain, what makes a great leader in sports? Is Scott Parker the man who ticks all the boxes for England?

 In order to determine if Parker is captain material, we first need to identify the characteristics of a leader, and this is where sport psychology comes in. We see a variety of aspects of leadership throughout sport. For example, in cricket the captain is influential in the decision making and team selection process. In football (soccer), the role of a captain is to lead by example and motivate players on and off the field, and arguably, no one in the history of football (soccer) emphasized this trait more than Manchester United's Roy Keane. Another aspect of leadership that the captain of a team needs to portray is the art of delivering feedback to both his/her teammates as well as from his/her teammates to the manager, which takes the skills of building a relationship and diplomacy.

The most interesting distinction between different leaders is that there are two main ways that people become a leader. You can be appointed as a leader, which is known as prescribed leadership, and is the case with Scott Parker and the current England football (soccer) situation. The other method of leadership is that of an emergent leader, and a great example of this was when Jonny Wilkinson emerged as the logical new captain of the English Rugby team in 2004 following his consistent performances during the 2003 World Cup victory. This is most exemplified by the last second game winning drop goal against Australia, an image that defines English Rugby to this day.

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Whichever method of leadership you feel is best, there is plenty of support, both empirical and anecdotal for both. Scott Parker has the potential to be a great captain for England, he certainly demonstrates many of the characteristics that have been identified as defining leadership in sport. The media circus will soon move on from Parker being appointed captain, and will move on to who the next permanent England manager will be, and that, as always, will prove that Sports Are Mental!